On Sepember 14, 2009 our lives were forver changed when the Dr told us that one of our twin boys had a condition called anencephaly and that it was incompatible with life. We chose to cherish every second that we were given with him. Cayden Ryan will live on forever in his twin brother Carter.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
Some people just dont get it
I really don't know how to start this.... All I can say is that some people really just don't get it! I have thought about and thought about it time again and I can't seem to figure this one out. If a woman was pregnant with twins and one of her twins passed away, do you really think that she wants to hear about twins all the time? I am like a magnet to people. I am wondering if it is just because they haven't gone through it or I am beginning to think that people are just plain hurtful. I mean seriously... I understand that twins are all over this world and they are a unique and wonderful thing and I am happy for the people out there who have healthy intact twins, but I do not. I was supposed to and sadly one of mine passed away. It has been 8 months tomorrow..which really isn't that long! I am still grieving for my son, why do you feel the need to talk to me about twins? I would never want to hurt somebody like that! I have come to a conclusion that all I can do is bite my tongue and pray for these people. I pray that nothing like this ever happens to them and that they will one day stop and realize how hurtful they are.
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I have come to the conclusion that sadly, people just don't think about what they say before they say it a lot of the time. I am sure I've done it to people without meaning to, but my prayer for myself is that if I do, that God would reveal that to me and I would say sorry. The unfortunate thing about words is you can't take them back. I don't know what's been said to you, but know that I am praying for your mother's heart, which I know is broken. It will never be the same. And nobody will EVER understand your pain. It feels so lonely, but God is with you. You still have twins...He is still your son. I am so sorry that you have to walk this road. Take comfort in knowing that Cayden and your story is going to help so many people, including me. Thank you for sharing. love, Stacy
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