Happy 7 Month Birthday!

Well, I will start by saying: Shame on me for being a day late. Yestetrday Cayden would have turned 7 months old. I wish more then anything in this life that he was still here with us to celebrate all of his milestones with his brother! I feel so angry and sad that he was taken from us. I will never forget the day that I came home from the Dr and told Ryan and the kids that we were having twins! I never knew I could feel so many emotions at one time, but at that time, I never felt like my family was more complete. To look back now that my perfect has been ripped away from me, it just doesn't seem fair! Our family has struggled with the pain and heartache of losing our baby boy. The days get a little bit harder and the pain gets a little bit deeper. We have all dealt with this in our own way and it has pushed us all apart in some ways and that hurts me. Luckily, I have a wonderful husband and 3 beautiful kids who I have to be strong for and keep going, but with that said, it doesn't make it any easier, it just means that I have to learn how to cope with losing Cayden and still be a wife and Mom. This is all still so new to me. I don't think people realize how hard it is to lose a child and still have a surviving child. It doesn't make it easier that I still got to bring a baby home because I still lost a child! My son that I carried for 35 weeks died in my arms! Can people really think it was easy since we knew in advance? I wish people could imagine knowing for 18 weeks that you had your son living and growing inside you, but that he wasn't going to make it. Well, I have gotten off of the reason I came on tonight. It wasn't supposed to be to vent. I just wanted my angel in heaven to know that Mommy loves him and misses him so much! You stole my heart from the moment I laid eyes on you in my first ultrasound. good~night Love!!!

so lonely

I was lying in bed tonight when I got this urge to get up and write on here. I just felt so empty inside and lonely! My heart is aching and I am yearning to hold my sweet baby boy. I have relived every second of Caydens life over and over in my head and it hurts a little more each time. I would give anything to be sitting in the hospital holding both of my boys again and to have his finger wrapped around mine. It just seems so unfair. It really sucks because life has gone on for everyone else, but not for me. I put on this happy face for everyone, but I am screaming on the inside! I remember being pregnant and how amazing it was to feel the both of them everyday. I miss that feeling! Everywhere I go someone talks to me about twins. I feel like I am being haunted by it. It makes me not want to leave my house, but the reality of it, is that I have a family that needs me to be strong and everyday, I get up and do the best I possibly can for them. I think Cayden would want me to do that. I really want to be happy and I try, but some days it is harder than others. Somedays I try to avoid anything that reminds me that Cayden is gone cause it hurts too much, but then other days I cling to every memory cause I don't ever want to forget how perfect he was to me. When I was in the hospital, I tried to hold him all the time because I was so scared that at any minute he was going to leave me and I wanted him to know that he was safe in his Mommys arms when it was his time to go.
I had twins, although it was only for a short time, I will always be the mother of twins. I miss him so much. I am going to go to bed and hold Cater close to me now.